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Originally Posted by charlene
as I said - what a child says is 'force' is usually a parents 'encouragement'...it's the naure of a parent child dynamic when a child wants something but doesn't want to do the work involved. As parents we sometimes know what is best for those children..letting a child just stop/give up can be a setup for alifetime of walking away from lifes challenges...imho.
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Charlene:
I read what you posted the first time and I'm not saying I totally disagree with you but I can see it both ways.
There's a time to say yes and there's a time to say no.
There's a time to be strict and there's a time not to.
I could go on but I'll stop here. I have mixed feelings on such things.
Maybe there are times , including music where you should make them continue especially if you think they're giving up too easily and if they look back now and are greatfull, than I will say you did the right thing.
When I first discovered Alyssa's YT site, there was one vid, (which has since been removed) where she's singing and playing guitar, and she seemed to have done well, but at the end she says, "I'll just stick to singing." Obviously doubted herself when she was doing well.
Of course she has stuck to both playing and the one's I already posted were made after that without her expressing doubts though you don't see her playing at the festival which might mean there's still some insecurity on her part and then I maybe wrong.
If so maybe her folks have not been as supportive.
Even in that Youtraxs interview she expresses her dad doubted her inspite getting her a guitar.
I could be wrong on my last statements or my thoughts on her being inconfident but if not It's ashame and I'm glad many here have supported your kids reaching their goals and are doing well.