Thanks, everyone. She is, as she writes, "walking around dazed and dejected." She has no money - he's been taking cash advances against their joint accounts for paying his lawyer, so in effect she's pay both her attorney and half of his lawyer's fees. Georgia is screwy and archaic when it comes to women's rights. He can keep on opening up joint accounts without her say-so until the divorce is final but she can't get herself off a card without his okay. There are both a first and second mortgage already on the house - that's she's put $10K in repairs on this past year to keep it from falling down around their ears - so I doubt there's much left for a loan for her. I'm sure his plan is to make her house poor so she'll have to just give it to him (she can't sell without him saying yes, and gettting half the proceeds, if any.) She can't leave Georgia at this point without the court considering it abandonment, which opens the door to him getting full and complete custody.
I know what goes around, comes around but his father was a mean alcoholic, physically and verbally abusive (and sexually towards his sisters, possibly him too though that's never been acknowledged) and he lived well into his 80s. She's fearful for the kids. She's seen her husband's rages, as have the boys, but he keeps his outbursts well hidden from anybody else, so there are almost no outside witnesses. My niece DID see one - she was the target, along with my sister, last fall when she was visiting - and is filing an affidavit with the court but that assumes the judge even looks at it. She just cannot abandon the boys when she knows that they are vulnerable. They've both been in counseling for about a year and a half; unfortunately her younger son's therapist is hospitalized for weeks with blood clots on the brain - and his office has no back-up!! As I said before, without divine intervention, this goes from bad to worse.
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