Sorry, classicmix Dj, but unconditional love is a destructive and unrealistic thing. Unconditional love means you will accept someone no matter how they treat you, no matter what harm they do to you. There are alot of women in the graveyard now, because of unconditional love. They claimed they loved these men that beat them...they felt guilty about the thought of leaving them..till one day those men that they loved so much went one step to far and wound up beating or stabbing or shooting them to death...There is nothing wrong with putting conditions on love so long as those conditions are legitmate. If you beat me...I will NOT love you. If you call me filthy names, I will NOT love you. If you screw around with my best friend I will NOT love you. Unconditonal love is a chauvanist's crutch to guilt someone into accepting their abuse..and it only seems to go in one direction.
Gord should be admired for seeing what he was and trying to change and I think he's more a man now than he ever was in his swagger and screw days.
He can see what he did was wrong..he doesn't rationalize it, it doesn't try and use pretty words to make his acts seem more palatable. He just says what he did was wrong and he's trying to make amends. No one is perfect, everyone DOES make mistakes..but the real measure of decency is whether or not someone accepts the responsiblity of those mistakes like Gord does.
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